July 15, 2021
BACHELOR INSIDE SCOOP
Today was such a fun girl chat. Becca spills ALL the tea on this episode combined with truth and encouragement that’ll leave you inspired as you walk through your day.
We asked Becca questions like “What led you to be on The Bachelor? What is the bachelor casting process like? How much say do the producers have on the show and the direction it goes?”. We get some inside TEA today. It’s such a fun glimpse into the world of filming the bachelor, but Becca also shares her heart of what it was like to stand true to herself and her convictions despite people’s opinions while in the limelight, what she learned about herself through the whole process, and more.
If you’re a fan of Bachelor Nation & ready to know more about how filming goes down, OR if you’re ready to be inspired, and feel like you’ve made a new best friend in the process, keep listening.
Becca was thrust into the spotlight when she was on Season 19 of The Bachelor – Chris Soule’s season, where she made it to the final two before Chris sent her home proposing to someone else. She came back on the show for Season 20 of The Bachelor with Ben Higgins. Ben sent her home about halfway through. Through her experience on the show, she learned a TON and grew as a woman through the process. Now she shares her journey + invites people into her world on Instagram, encouraging other women to be true to themselves, and making us all laugh in the process, and is the host of 2 time People’s Choice Award-winning podcast “Scrubbing In” with her best friend Tanya Rad.
People acknowledge and recognize her more from Ben’s season than they ever do for Chris’s season. How funny, right? After that and being on the show, she naturally gained a social media following where she began being an influencer and then started her podcast with her best friend. Currently, she is in the place of continually growing with everything she can pursue.
Before being on the show, Becca never had watched the show. Her best friend from high school watched it and wanted to send in an audition video of her. Growing up being known as the wholesome conservative girl, Becca had no desire to go on the show.
Fast forward, she was traveling and after getting off a plane she received a voicemail. Listening to it she heard, “I’m Scott from The Bachelor and your best friend Laura nominated you and we would love to meet you”.
Immediately after Becca called her best friend asking if she had submitted an audition for her, she had. After Becca telling her she didn’t want to meet them, Laura convinced her to just go see and talk to them. At the time being in San Deigo, Becca drove up to Los Angelos the next week for a meeting.
After the meeting where they hyped her up telling her how far they think she could go (which she thinks they tell everyone that). In her mind, she started to think this was all working out for her to meet the man of her dreams. Sending her home with a large application that her coworker helped her fill out, sent it back in March, and then didn’t receive the final call that she would be on the show until July.
During all of that time, they would call and check in and see if she was still single and interested in being on the show. There is a final testing weekend that is filled with psychology tests, talking to a therapist, diving into your past, see if you have anything on your record, and blood tests for STDs.
“The first night is crazy”, says Becca. You’re in a limo and you haven’t seen anyone for three days. When you first arrive in the area you go straight to the hotel room and are quarantined for three days. Then all of sudden you’re in a limo with all these girls going to meet the same guy.
Everyone sits around and asks if you have talked to him, what is he like? Then the producers will come in and ask how we are all feeling, telling us to talk about how we are feeling and get the conversation going. The producers are the conversation starters, but then after that, all the conversations are real. They prompt them but that is it.
A lot of people always have the question, when he is calling out the roses on the first night, how does he know everyone’s name that fast? There have been so many speculations. What happens is the bachelor will come out and say three names and then he’ll leave and walk back to the room to get three more names. All the girls are standing there, not moving or talking. Whenever they pane to someone during the ceremony and they look upset, angry, or drunk, it’s usually because they are so tired of standing and waiting.
That first night Becca never even talked to Chris. Her entire life she was taught if a man wasn’t you, he’ll pursue you. Forgetting she was on a tv show with 30 other women to pursue, she still thought if he wanted to talk to her he’d come to get her. Then it was time for the rose ceremony and she hadn’t spoken a single word to him.
Standing there, she had never felt her feet hurt that badly until that first rose ceremony. Standing there thinking her feet hurt and she is waiting for a rose from a man she has not had a conversation with to validate. Calling her name and she was shocked. For
As far as how much of who he keeps in his decision? Becca has heard different things. Most of the time they pick eligible women that they think the bachelor would choose. If there is a villain it’s because the producers need it for tv purposes.
Before going on the show Becca wasn’t very good at clearly communicating her feelings or expressing herself. She didn’t realize this until being on the show, where they were able to help open her up not only to the romantic relationship aspect but as well as friendships. It gave her a newfound appreciation for saying yes to doing something that seemed out of her comfort zone.
Becca has always been confident in who she is and what she believes in. If anything she learned if you approach a situation positively with people, they will view it as positive too. It was never an issue with getting along with the girls or Chris and Ben.
Her whole life Becca felt like she needed to be a certain person. Being a people pleaser, but in the same sentence, can say she has always done what she wanted to do. She always wanted people to like her.
Anytime she has spoken up about something that may upset people, she has received backlash. She tries to embrace criticism because it is so vital to growth.
You have to define who you are. The only thing that changed for Becca after both seasons was gaining a large following. Constantly navigating this, she continues to unapologetically be herself and brush off ignorant criticism.
At first, she would take everything so personally. Now it’s more trying to have grace while letting it roll off her back.
It’s something new every day. Just buying her first house, Becca has spent a lot of days decorating and organizing.
Being an influencer she gets to work with a variety of brands and create content that she loves. Some days that looks like working on three or four things at a time and other days she has zero things and can choose whatever she wants to do for the day.
Focusing on always working to grow and on things that are long-term and lasting.
Becca’s podcast is with her best friend Tanya. At first, just starting it by herself, chatting about pop culture, and interviewing people from shows that she watched. She never felt comfortable with it, she wanted it to be more of a conversational girlfriend chat.
One day she asked her two younger sisters to be on the podcast, as soon as they got on the microphones they froze. Needing to fill time for that episode, she asked her best friend Tanya to pop on and help fill in some with her. While they were recording, Becca looked at her produces and said “This is what it is supposed to be”, girl chat with your best friend. That was three years ago. Now they have won two People’s Choice Awards back to back.
Every single one of us deals with the compassion game. There is weirdly some comfort in that, not that you want someone else to struggle with comparison. Even the people that you compare yourself to are struggling with comparison.
Try to be the best version of yourself, Becca’s main focus is to always first lead with kindness. When we can get outside of our heads and stop worrying about what other people are thinking and going through, and focus on love and kindness. It makes us feel better.
We focus more on our bodies and faces, which are the least important things.
You are one of kind. There is no one else like you. As cliche as it is, it is true. Embrace that instead of wasting your time being someone else.
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