August 24, 2021
Recently on the Heart & Hustle podcast, my husband Landon and Lindsey’s husband, Andrew, took over the podcast. A couple of months ago, you send in questions for them to answer and they didn’t disappoint. They spilled the tea on ALL the things: marriage/relationship, behind the scenes of the Heart, day-to-day life and so much more. It was a doozy, and we learned a few things we didn’t know about the boys and their opinions about us.
Because we loved the boys’ episode so much that we decided to have them join one more time. This time, we’ll all be answering your questions together. Who knows what’s going to transpire. Are you ready to dive into even more juicy deets?!
Lindsey: You bring the dramatics in me down, in a good way. You balance me out when I am flighty and super dramatic and aggressive. When I am flying too high, you ground me.
Andrew: It’s a lot harder to be selfish when you’re married. Putting others first.
Landon: I think that is what a partnership is. You should be in a relationship where that person lifts you and encourages you to chase your dreams. Be with someone that inspires you and encourages you, hopefully in a marriage it is someone that can come beside you when you need support. Balance each other out. Keep you well balanced and focused where you might not be strongest at, but they are good at.
Evie: That is a perfect all-around statement. Landon in so many ways is steady and takes care of things that freak me out or overwhelm me. He is the perfect balance to the areas where I am weakest. He is good at approaching situations and thinking through them logistically, where I tend to be more of a dreamer. Landon comes along and his first response is yes, and then now how? Never downplaying my dreams but coming in with a different perspective.
Andrew: Your eyes. You are very driven.
Lindsey: You put others first. The way you put me and Eloise first is so selfless and so honoring. You protect us, lead us and you genuinely do so much for us.
Landon: I love our dynamic. But in the work dynamic, I love how driven and passionate you are to work hard.
Evie: His humility towards others. He leads from a place of servant-heartedness. Putting others first, the way he honors and loves others. You are very intentional with how you seek conversation, seek the Lord and his heart to willingly put others first and the Lord.
Andrew: I hate it, but it makes me money. I prefer to be private about most things, but we need to pay bills so I can’t complain.
Landon: I think Andrew and I are more of the private reserved type people. I think I’m somewhere in the middle. I enjoy connecting with people, I like getting to know them a little bit.
Andrew: Just the social media stuff which is kind of everything.
Landon: It’s just balancing life out. How can we balance being on social media and still being present? It’s constantly learning what that looks like and having a healthy dynamic. This is for anyone with any work life. Work-life balance, what does that mean and look like for you? Being aware of a balance. It’s so easy to work and work and work.
Andrew: I was a sophomore in college around May and Lindsey had to take a trip to New York and LA for a documentary to film for class and was crushing on me. So asked if I would go with her. We were not dating at the time, and I wouldn’t give him an answer for the longest time. Finally, on the phone, I decided to go and I had to decide if I wanted to marry her to go on the trip with her.
Landon: Before we started dating there was a figuring out if it was going to be Evie and I going into a relationship together. When we started dating, I didn’t know if she was the one I was going to marry, but I went in with the intention of marrying her. I didn’t just go to date people just to date people, but to see if there was a possibility of marriage. Our story has been very complex and we have gone through a good amount of stuff and have learned, the further you go through it and see them by your side, you can’t picture your life without them. You start to realize this is the person you want to grow old with and raise children with.
Landon for Evie: People don’t see the different sides of our moods. I think people online see the best part of us. I think a lot of people think Evie portrays a very happy person, which she is, but there are moments where she is mellow and chill.
Andrew for Lindsey: You are an independent woman, but you are not. You can be an independent woman, but you don’t when you are with me. I do everything for her.
Lindsey: Travel dreams, homeschool dreams, business dreams. We dream to have an exciting life to put our family first. To show them the world. We have a lot of travel dreams that we want to go on a trip as a family every year, just us every year. Andrew wants to adopt a kid, I’m still torn about that. We want to diversify our income. We have a goal to make all of the money we’re making to pay bills that are not attached to social media or my face.
Landon: We are filled with dreams. Having kids, we want lots of babies. We love making goals and achieving them.
Evie: Landon and I both have huge dreams but also that’s one of the areas we are 100% on the same page with on privacy. This is a boundary between me and social media. I don’t like sharing my big dreams and goals. I’ll share that we want kids and have a couple of businesses that we are working on and towards. We don’t share specifics with the world, we work hard and then we show up with what we’ve worked on.
Landon: Have accountability, clear communication, and have mentors that you can talk to.
Evie: You have to be on the same page. It is a team effort to fight for purity in your relationship. There are moments where Landon is feeling weaker and I have to stand firm and vice versa with myself. That’s where team effort is vital, because you are going to be feeling different things at different times, or being able to work towards the same goal as a team is crucial. 41:06 Knowing your why is so important. Not just what your goal is, it’s also the why. That’s the thing that will keep you true to the course.
Lindsey: The church typically focuses on the don’t do it, there is a huge culture with such religious reasons, but not understanding God’s heart of why. Understanding your why is a big one, your reason needs to be strong enough.
Lindsey: Right before this podcast we were fighting over the headphones and the jack. We fight about literally everything. Currently, we are in a season of moving and we just have not got into our house and I am very particular about things and when it doesn’t happen the exact way I intended it to, I take it out on you which I shouldn’t.
Andrew: Everything. There is nothing you can’t fight about.
Landon: We’ve had a really good base of communication from when we met. Evie has been raised to communicate through problems whereas I grew up being more passive. So I don’t enjoy fighting and so we don’t fight a lot. That doesn’t mean we are perfect. We have miscommunicated and misunderstood each other and are learning how to communicate through it. We both get pretty frustrated but that is the basis it’s more miscommunications and frustrations.
Evie: It’s been years of working on it, I wouldn’t say we fight. I say we have moments where we have miscommunicated or one of us is feeling frustrated or hurt. Typically our mode of dealing with it is communicating we were upset or asking what their intentions were. We then sit down and have an honest conversation about it.
Lindsey: I use discernment and wisdom with the Holy Spirit on what feels too personal, what am I comfortable sharing and not comfortable sharing. A question that I ask myself is, “Why am I wanting to share this?”. Am I sharing something because I am painting myself as a hero or to look good, or am I sharing this out of the heart to make someone else’s day better? What side of the coin am I on? If it is the first one then I am probably sharing it from the wrong perspective. That is usually what stops me from sharing or continuing on sharing.
Evie: For me, it comes down to a personal conviction of what I feel the Holy Spirit is giving me peace on sharing versus when I feel a discomfort in my spirit that feels a little too sacred or personal. As a general rule, something that I feel is a conviction from the Lord that that can be kept in my life and heart until he changes that. In our relationship with Landon and me, if I don’t feel this conviction then I will ask him and see how he feels about it.
Andrew to Lindsey: Spicy and driven.
Lindsey to Andrew: Will drink beer and beat you at Catan.
Evie to Landon: Once he sets his mind to something he goes all out.
Landon to Evie: Sassy, spicy, confident, and ready to pounce.
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