November 11, 2021
Married couples – LISTEN UP! Today you’re about to get your world rocked in the BEST way possible. We’re about to have the most powerful, raw, and life-changing conversation with two of the sweetest and funniest humans on earth. Kristin and Danny Adams bring the fire talking about all things relationships and marriage.
Now if you don’t know who they are, Kristin and Danny Adams are the husband-and-wife duo whose February 2017 lip-sync video went mega-viral and completely changed their lives. To date, it’s been viewed over 300 million times and has grown their online community to one million people.
Before they started making videos, Kristin worked in the entertainment industry as a television host and correspondent, and Danny worked in the entertainment industry as an actor, comedian, and stunt man for sports commercials. Now, they work together full-time to produce online family-friendly content where God is always welcome. When they aren’t making videos, they homeschool their two children, travel across the country hosting and emceeing live events, speak at marriage conferences, and perform their “Laughter Is the Best Medicine” program.
In today’s episode, Kristin and Danny share their raw story of coming to the Lord together as a couple, how their relationships with God completely changed their lifestyle before marriage. Before they found the Lord they were working in Hollywood, living together, having sex, and made the radical choice after finding the Lord to move out, commit to purity until their wedding date, and completely changed their entire lifestyle. We then chatted about some of the most powerful marriage truths, principles, and tools that will completely transform a relationship from “boo to woo”. We discuss finding marriage mentors and how they can change your life, incorporating community and how it can play into your relationship, and just so many other nuggets of wisdom.
Keep God at the center. When you are focused on your first love, you can better love others after that. You can’t expect the other person to fill those empty corners in your heart or life. Only God can do that. To have that expectation on them is unfair and will only bring more issues.
Pray them in. Fervently, speak what you need, and ask God every day to lead you to a couple that you both respect and receive from. Whether that is presented from a small group, a church, neighbors, or ask around. Ask friend’s parents. It could be something where you get together once a month and have dinner with. It doesn’t have to be this overblown counseling session, just someone that you can regularly be in community with that knows your story, is praying for you and when you do come with an issue you’re not having to go back and explain everything. They have walked this road with you, seen your personality styles, seen you engage, seen where you both fall short and where your strengths are. You have to be intentional about it. Make sure both parties feel comfortable sharing with the couple.
Counseling in itself for some people brings a negative thought to their mind. It means you messed up. It means something negative instead of positive. When we hear counseling, we think about what happened or what went wrong? Instead of seeing it as God put in place for wisdom and council. Any great man or woman of God has mentors or counselors in their life. We train for everything else in our life, but we don’t always have the tools and training we need to have success in our relationships. Why wouldn’t we get the resources and tools to have in place to be successful. We don’t put the time and effort into our relationships.
How do we win at this and not just survive? It takes work and you have to put that time in.
We can honor generations that have gone before us. There is so much they have to tell through sharing and telling. We all would rather learn from someone else’s mistakes than our own.
Danny and Kristin had moved from LA to Indiana, with the goal to make family-friendly content where God is always welcomed. Coming from traditionally entertainment backgrounds this was the first time they were officially making their own content from start to finish. Seeing if they could make a living at it and be full-time. Living off of their savings for almost a year was a huge step of faith trusting where God was calling them. They would post a new video every Friday that year of lip syncs, some marriage tips, lifestyle, or something funny.
Their main focus on making videos was to create connections and share that with others. The video that changed their life was a lip-sync love song of the decades that aired the day before Valentine’s day in February 2017.
After posting it the night of the 13th, they awoke the next morning to several million views. Rerehsging the page again it would go up another million and would keep climbing each time. Thinking the platform was broken, other platforms reached out asking to share their video as it went more and more viral. Within a couple of week period, they had several hundred million views. They had a “book now” button on their page and all of a sudden it was clicked 15,000 times in two weeks but probably with only 200 legitimate requests. From there they developed their show and started speaking around the country.
You can’t laugh together if you’re not spending time together. Laughter is one of the greatest social bonds. There is no downside to laughter. There are two ways to free yourself up to laugh. Spend good time together, not time paying bills or running errands. And also keeping your heart light and free of defense. It’s really hard to laugh at or with someone if you’re mad at them.
When you’re laughing with someone your heart opens up. We stand on laughter being medicine. A merry heart does good like medicine but a broken spirit dries the bones.
Kristin and Danny always have game night after dinner and try not to be in a rush. Focusing on stuff that will open themselves and their kids up. Leaving your cares at the doors and it’s an investment worth pursuing.
You might think that the biggest problem in your marriage is your spouse, but we would argue that it is likely you. We know that is hard. We’re saying it to ourselves as well. We don’t want you to get deceived thinking that if only your spouse would do x, y, z your marriage would be perfect. That is not going to be a road that leads you to any kind of freedom, it’s not reality. We all have been there many times.
The root of sin is selfishness, it is often ourselves that we need to first check. That is humility, the only way we can get to humility is by putting God at the center of our lives. We have to make him the Lord of our lives, we cannot do it on our own, we can’t manufacture change in our relationship. It starts with us, it starts with humility, letting the Lord love on us. Out of that, we can be in the best place to serve our spouse. When you have two people doing that, offering 100% of themselves and expecting nothing else in return, you’re going to have an amazing marriage.
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