Today we had a RICH girl chat about a super important topic: singleness. Kristen has SO much wisdom to share from her years navigating waiting for her husband and she delivered LOADS of it on today’s episode. She shared her advice for anyone currently navigating a season of singleness, some encouragement on how to turn this season into one of growth and depth that can set you up for success throughout all of life, as well as some thoughts on practical takeaways and steps that you can begin to implement today to combat fear, loneliness, and frustration in this season.

 

Kristen’s Story 

Kristen is the co-founder of Girl Defined Ministries, author of several books, including Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story and is passionate about promoting the message of God-defined womanhood through blogging, speaking, mentoring young women, and hosting Bible studies in her living room. In the end, she’s just a fun-loving Texas girl who adores all things outdoors and is an unashamed dog-lover who snuggles with her little Maltipoo whenever she can.

 

Find yourself single 

God has you right where you need to be. As humans, we have our plans, dreams, and timelines. We have this idea that our life is behind us, if only we were further down the road then we would be where we’re exactly to be. We’d be fully thriving, fully living, but the truth is God’s timeline is often so different than ours. And where He has you in life is right where you’re supposed to be. That is our reality for today, rather than looking at the cup half empty you need to flip that. What are the benefits of this season? 

 

The benefits of being single

There is a lot more time. You aren’t taking care of kids or having a husband. Your time is pretty open outside of work. There are a lot of things that you could be investing your time into. In our singleness sometimes we can be so introspective and focus on what we don’t have, instead of looking out and thinking what can you give to others? Finding ways to invest in others, pour into others, and get more involved. Serving others will help produce a lot of joy in that season of singleness. 

Dealing with loneliness: 

Not every single person will be called for marriage, but that doesn’t mean we weren’t made for relationships. We were made for others. You might be single right now but you probably have so many relationships that you could invest in and grow in. Friendships, with your family, etc. You don’t have to have a husband to be relationally satisfied. 

 

Worried you’ll never meet your future spouse? 

What we cannot forget is that the one’s love we desperately need the most has already been given to us in Christ. That can feel so spiritual, but the man that we truly need most is the man that came 2,000 years ago, died on the cross for our sins, rose again- conquered death, and is offering us life. True and everlasting life. We are 100% fully embraced, fully loved, and accepted by a man and that is Jesus. 

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What is your favorite book you’ve read recently?

Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery 

 

 

 

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