June 21, 2022
Lindsey and her husband, Andrew Roman are taking over the podcast today to chat about something that was quite literally life-changing that we did last month for the month of May. We took a work sabbatical for a month where I took off work from The Heart University, we cut out social media entirely, and legit hardly touched our phones AT ALL all month. It was absolutely life-changing and incredible for our family as a whole. We did a LOT of other intentional things during our sabbatical that we’ll get into in the show, but when I came back to Instagram at the beginning of June you guys had a TON of really incredible questions for me, so what better way than to answer them on the podcast. So Andrew and I are showing up today sharing exactly what went down in May, what we did, what we learned, and answering your juicy questions along the way!
This is iPhone-specific.
To change your phone to black & white: go to settings, in the search bar, type “color”, it’s the second result. It takes you to color filters, it will be off, you turn it on and you can pick the filter. You will want to pick grayscale.
To make our phones “dumb”, we turned off the color and put on serious limits on screen time with certain apps. Every single app that you could use for work or spending aimless time on, we turned off. You can add any screen time limits to any app.
App limits: go to settings, then screen time. If you have never set it up you have to go through a couple of things, but the trick is to set up a screen time password that you don’t know. Go to downtime, you want to schedule times and then block at downtime.
We blocked off every single app except calls, texts, and the camera.
Lindsey did at the very beginning. Quickly your body unlearns that when you stop doing that for a couple of days or a week. But when you have those app blocks you genuinely can’t even be tempted to go check. It’s not even an option. It’s natural to have the muscle memory to go to an app.
There were quite a few times when Lindsey lost her phone, and genuinely forgot it. In normal life when was the last time you let your phone be lost for more than 5 minutes before you started freaking out?
Our anniversary is May 23rd, so our dream was to go to Ireland, which did not happen. Instead, we went to Hot Springs, AK, because we have a goal to hit every national park in the US and that is somehow a national park. It’s a good park to visit without children. It’s a national park that is a city. Hot Springs is a town and in the town, there is a road called Bathhouse Row where a bunch of bathhouses from the early 1900s and that is considered a national park.
We also went on a very last-minute road trip to Indianapolis for two days, to visit a friend. That was all we did.
Lindsey: I started back in Genesis a couple of months ago. I am reading the Bible from start to finish, with this reading plan. But during our sabbatical, I was reminded of God’s provision to the Israelites, to Abraham & Sarah. It reminded me that I don’t need to always be striving but that God will continue to provide.
We worked, just not on traditional things. We worked on our teamwork, and communication, and Lindsey worked a little bit on her personal business. Lindsey booked a coaching call and wedding during this time and got to go meet them in person, but that was pretty much it.
Trying to change our family’s rhythms and the foundation is tedious work. It takes a lot of conversations to work on communication in marriage, so you have to take a lot of time. Doing it in an environment where there was time to have long conversations, and family watching our kids, it’s tough to do that during a normal time.
5:45 am- Wake up to pray or workout
7:00 am- Kids woke up
8:00-8:30 am- Breakfast
After that, it depended on the day. We tried to have a fun activity each day.
We read a TON. We read a couple of books out loud, which was fun. Went to the library, did activities, listened to music, and played a lot of games. Had friends over for games nights, and we cooked together.
What we are always trying to do and build is to build our income to a place where we don’t have to work and we are still getting paid. That is the goal. We didn’t prepare financially for it, since Evie covered for me in The Heart Lindsey still got her monthly salary from The Heart.
The sucked-in part, didn’t happen because the majority of our apps were shut off. What was ironic was Lindsey didn’t take a lot of photos and videos from the month of May. Before she was getting to the point of taking photos of their children not for memories but to post on Instagram for content.
Having a moment just be a moment without capturing it.
We are on week two, we might not have that full answer. When you are not surrounded by people’s opinions all the time, life is so sweet. When you are caring about what you should be caring about. There is a capacity of what information our brain can handle and with our society and internet, we have far exceeded that.
At the end of oue sabbatical, Lindsey wanted to find a job that doesn’t require her to be a dancing monkey on Instagram, in order to pay their bills.
Andrew: The segregation of our roles. When Andrew got out of the coast guard, my job was to empower Lindsey and provide for her and give her as much freedom as she needs. I was so focused on doing that, that I didn’t realize I was pushing Lindsey into her office and keeping myself and the kids downstairs. I was in a way abandoning her. I realized I thought I was giving her freedom, but it was really segregating us and not providing her freedom. I was destroying our teamwork.
Lindsey: I was reading a lot of Genesis and Exodus, reading again that story again of how God provided again and again for the Israelites. Even when they were grumbling. We have been in a tighter financial season this year, and I have gotten into this mindset that I have to hustle and strive in order to provide for my family to make a living. I am not the provider for this family, God is. We need to work out of a holy place of rest and call, versus striving to make money out of a scarcity mindset. Working out a faith instead of fear.
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